Prep the Okra: Wash the okra and pat it completely dry with paper towels. This is the most important step to prevent sliminess! Trim the tops and tails, then slice into 0. 25-inch / 6 mm rounds.
Bloom the Spices: Heat the ghee or oil in a large 10–12 inch nonstick frying pan over medium-high heat.
Once hot, add the mustard and cumin seeds.
When the mustard seeds turn gray and start to pop, you know they're ready.
Sauté the Okra: Immediately add the asafetida, followed by the sliced okra. Quickly spread the okra into a single, even layer to ensure it crisps up nicely.
Reduce the heat to medium.
Add Flavor: Sprinkle the turmeric, cayenne (or paprika), and the grated coconut or ground almonds over the okra.
Stir gently to coat everything.
Pan-Fry to Perfection: Cook for about 20-25 minutes, stirring occasionally, until the okra is tender, golden brown, and has a lovely crust. If it looks too dry, add a tiny splash of water.
Season and Serve: Remove the pan from the heat. Now is the time to add the salt!
Stir to combine, cover the pan for one minute to let the flavors meld, and then serve immediately.
Don't Crowd the Pan: Use a large enough pan to spread the okra in a single layer. This allows it to fry rather than steam, giving you that irresistible golden-brown crust.